How to Rewire the Brain for Calm Kids With Carol Garner-Houston


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And this episode is all about how to make the brain work again for calm children and calm mothers, especially with everything we’re doing right now. I’m bringing back a recurring guest, the highly requested, Carol Garner-Houston, a licensed professional therapist who helps children and adults cope with neurodevelopment challenges. And she’s been doing that for decades. I have used some of his programs for my things in which I was working with my children. And she spends a lot of time changing the programs she does with her children into things that parents can do at home with their children and such programs can help. I know that many of you have reached out to programs that you usually do for your children through a school system or through a special program that has either been changed or has just been discontinued. Has gone And I wanted to talk to her about how her simple plan is helping with mental health and nervous function for families struggling with different options. It has some good results in the world. And now you have the ability to do that in your own home. And it has virtual experts who can walk you through it. So I thought it was important to bring it back and fix all the really competitive mechanisms that we as parents can use, especially if there is a child who is dealing with sensory things. Or just being overwhelmed and emphasizing everything in the house that we are all visiting right now. So, let’s jump in and start learning. Carol, welcome back.

Carol: Katie, thank you for keeping me. I can’t be happier to be with you and to have some more trouble with my friends.

Katie: Absolutely. It is always a pleasure to talk to you. And with everything this year, I knew we just needed to talk to you about some of the specific things that could help our listeners and their families navigate them all because of course Many families are moving on to new things that may not have happened before. In particular, I have heard from many listeners and readers who have children with all sorts of sensory things through which they are working. And many times, there are programs through the school system that are part of what is helping them, and many of these things have changed, or become virtual, or just gone. And I know a lot of mothers who are visiting for the first time as teachers, for example, and trying to help their children through these things. So, to expand, I like to talk about some of the best strategies to compete for my senses. I like how you call it sensual friends and parents in 2020.

Carol: Absolutely. And we’re receiving phone calls from all over the country, and parents are reporting some really disturbing trends in themselves and their children, such as sensory deprivation, experiences such as crying for children, regression in learning and development, and The more anger, the worse the attention, the more restored sleep they can’t reach. They are talking about sensory defensive behaviors, sensitivity to sound and touch, or simply stuck in OCDs or negative defects, hard-thinking processes, socially bizarre. And we talked about it. Even our congratulations these days are a little weird socially. Can i hug you Do i elbow Is this person, you know, wearing a mask or are they really worried? But it’s also just a hyper-alert, shocking response. So, of course, we understand why this is the case with epidemics around the world. Restrictions on these movements and lifestyles are wreaking havoc on our nervous system, and our families are reacting with the use of our tranquility measures, so that they can really get out of this chaos outside their bodies. They can be helped to cope, but then, of course, the effect is that it is happening to their own bodies and it is affecting their friends and their families. Therefore, the first step with this is to always stay safe and calm within your own nervous system and then in the cycle of your family for that day.

So we really help our friends re-organize how close they are to their day, how they feel about it, and what needs to be done to change that, just Things to change this state of mind by looking at these behaviors as a reflection of the state of mind and then making different choices. So we’re really giving families some great plans to do just that. So, basically, we have our calm way, and it has four steps. It has got the first step, which is to relax and regulate the nervous system. The second step is to activate specific parts of the brain that may be weak or under-activated at this time. And then we teach the brain to learn by removing obstacles that prevent us from doing so and then help the brain to learn more by participating in certain activities. So we teach our mothers and fathers how to do this at home. And that’s what really reduces a lot of their stress and not only allows them to cope, but then when we go through our process, they start to acquire the neurological skills that really do. a are capable of a more flexible nervous system. Roll with twists, and shifts, and punches when they come because that’s exactly what is happening to us these days, every day. But talking to your nervous system, some of the most practical ways to change that pace in your home, has been most helpful for these parents.

Katie: That’s great. And yes, I think you’re right, a lot of parents keep their kids at home all the time, which is new to a lot of families. And even more overwhelming for both parents and children as we learn to navigate such different dynamics. I think I’ve learned for myself over the last couple of years, realizing how important it is to feel safe internally and what the difference is physically. Because I’ve talked about it before on this podcast, but I did all the physical things for so long, and it didn’t happen until I got the nervous and inner emotional side of it. Not to be outdone, I realized I felt safe and calm in my body, and then the physical stuff. And similarly, it’s easy to try to focus often. And I still think these things are so important, you know, diet, and sometimes supplements, and lifestyle, all of these things are still very important. But if you are not paying attention to the interior, then those things will not be as effective as they could be. And I know you talk a lot about that. Let us know why it is important to feel safe when we are talking about health and wellness through these things.

Carol: Well, what I really like about you is this, you know, you’re managing it yourself, and you’ve done all the cellular work you do with your diet and supplements. Can do And also, I’ve heard you talk, you know, some cognitive therapy where you’re trying to talk through this process, and trying to connect it, and Move different levels of trauma to different levels. But when we talk about the restoration of the nervous system, the nervous framework that builds and supports all the experiences you’ve been trying to make, is traumatic. Or make yourself together and more organized, you really need to give the nervous system a pulse of safety. And with some of the tools and technologies and protocols we have, you can really go straight in and give a protective pulse to the anatomy in the human body, especially the vaginal nerves. And when you do that, you can access and stimulate this nervous system, relaxation and digestion. It is a state in which we are all ready to build and accessible. But right now, those things are just getting away from us. So sometimes our friends, when they come to see us, yes, we use the calm way. We start the nervous system with this first calm and relaxing. Some of our friends can really take advantage of this technology, which is a step in the right direction. For example, we have things like alpha stem units that can generate alpha waves in the brain, which can fight anxiety, insomnia, depression.

It speaks to this nervousness very easily, allowing you to quickly change the pace so that you can access your maximum, you know, social aspect, your creative aspect. You can follow and implement the things you are trying to do in your day. But first, we need to feel safe and secure. This is an important part of regulating the body for optimal health, as well as because of the nervous system’s overly sympathetic response to this fight, flight, or frozen reaction, which We know so well because of this chronic stress, it’s all in this state every day. And for many of us, for all of us, it’s a long way off. And so the nerve energy is extracted with a failure to recover. And that person can get stuck in a place that can make you sick and less flexible, making it harder to complete basic tasks, such as self-care or learning too little, well, our new home school With new platform and work requirements. We need to So, it’s really important that they really set themselves up. Tools we can use tools, but we can also use things; what can we use that we don’t actually need to buy? What can we do now to change this pace in our home? So, to feel absolutely safe, to know what to expect, and to know that what you need is a basic need. And with some of our little friends, especially we like to set up visual schedules at home, so they know what to expect from them. We take small pictures of the various tasks we want them to do, especially if it is a task that is very difficult for them. Like, maybe it’s waking up and gathering morning routine before school, maybe it’s too stressful, maybe there’s too much friction, maybe there’s too much discussion.

And it just continues to get more frustrating. So, for that, we have small pictures of each step that we want to make our little friends. And so they know that when they wake up, they’re going to get dressed, they’re going to have breakfast, they’re going to brush their teeth, they’re going to make their bed. And you can keep referring to this visual schedule, let’s tell them what’s happening next. And then when you can get a job. When you finish your routine, we can take some time out, for example, before we start working on your online home schooling. So, putting these steps into pieces, and blocking them, and actually completing these steps makes it a lot easier and more fun, and it helps make the change in school or the next thing that you Trying to work very easy because you have a good forecast schedule so, changing what they see with insight, we are very careful, very careful to see that we have our screens. What are you putting on, right? This can send a lot of information to our autonomic nervous system that we are not safe, especially if you leave things like television in the background for hours and hours. It is definitely sending input to our human nervous system that you are not safe, which can lead to increase in cortisol levels, stress hormones. And then if we don’t have a lot of movement opportunities, if we don’t really prefer sweating and lowering cortisol levels, do some strenuous physical exercise, it all puts pressure on the joints and so on. Enlargement is like a central nervous system. The unconscious body needs and is looking for something.

And if it is limited for any reason, you really need to prioritize it because it can really help your nervous system to feel and become emotionally stable while you are using our senses. They also add to these other ways to relax the system. So the second way we do this is with some essential oils, and when we need them we pull in calm and relaxed people, all to feed our body and our sensory system. Let’s say it’s quiet and safe. And that’s very important. One piece of this piece, of which this piece is very important, have we learned that in the service of all these families at different ages and in different diagnoses, all of them are looking for different useful results. Well, what we found is that you need to build their nervous system first to calm and calm down before we can learn any one of these higher learning centers, speech, Or access higher education centers for attention. Brain, executive function, motivation, creativity. But we can’t get there unless we first feel it and get nervous. So it makes me think about my speech and language friends. Of course, when we first use Bajaj regulatory tools, then ask the individual to speak, if the human body feels and is emotionally secure, you can gain greater access to speech and language parts of the brain Are So this is a very important tip to understand that when you are looking for different skills within yourself or others, and you are trying to make it, and you can’t access it, safety and calm. This is the first step. High priority that can help you move to other states you are trying to enter.

So, it’s just been a gift to be presented to families, first of all, in this context, right? صرف انھیں یہ تعلیم دے رہے ہیں ، کہ ، “ارے ، ہم واقعتا change تبدیل کر سکتے ہیں کہ ہمارا اعصابی نظام ان تمام مختلف طریقوں سے چبا کر ، اسے جس چیز کی ضرورت ہے اسے کھلا دے۔” اور کیا اچھی بات ہے ، میں نے آپ ، کیٹی کے لئے یہ عظیم PDF لنک بنایا ہے ، اور ہم اپنے دوستوں کو اپنی رسائی فراہم کرسکتے ہیں تاکہ آپ ان اقدامات کو پرنٹ کرسکیں جن کا میں یہاں جائزہ لے رہا ہوں۔ یہ وہی اقدامات ہیں جو میں اپنے مؤکلوں کو دیتا ہوں جب وہ پکارتے ہیں اور آپ ان چیزوں کا حوالہ دے سکتے ہیں ، اس دن کو بدلنے میں مدد کرنے کے ل parts اس پہلو کو بدل سکتے ہیں کیونکہ یہ پہلا قدم صرف اتنا اہم ہے۔ اور واقعتا یہی وجہ ہے کہ ہمارے پروٹوکول اور ہمارے ٹولز اتنے کامیاب ہیں۔ یہ جس طرح سے ہم اسے منظم کرتے ہیں ، لیکن یہ اسی ترتیب میں ہے جس میں ہم حفاظت کے ساتھ پہلے کام کرتے ہیں۔

کیٹی: مجھے یہ پسند ہے۔ اور مجھے بہت خوشی ہے کہ آپ نے کب ، تب ، اور نظام الاوقات پیش کیا کیونکہ مجھے معلوم ہے کہ ہم نے اپنے پچھلے پوڈکاسٹوں میں سے ایک کے بارے میں اس کے بارے میں مختصر طور پر بات کی تھی ، اور ایک اور مہمان جو بھی مثبت والدین سے متعلق ہے اسی طرح کی بات کا ذکر کیا ہے۔ اور میں سمجھتا ہوں کہ والدین کے لئے یہ احساس کرنے کا یہ ایک اہم ٹپ ہے ، اور میں نے کچھ سال پہلے بھی کچھ ایسا ہی کیا تھا ، جس سے مجھے احساس ہورہا تھا کہ بار بار ایک ہی سوالات پوچھے جانے سے میرا تناؤ بڑھ رہا ہے۔ اور مجھے احساس ہوا ، یہ دراصل مجھ پر تھا کہ میں نے اپنے بچوں کو یہ جاننے کے لئے ٹولز نہیں دیئے تھے کہ معاملات کب ہونے والے ہیں۔ لہذا ، یقینا ، انھوں نے مجھ سے پوچھنا تھا کیوں کہ میں وہی تھا جس نے ناشتے ، کھانوں اور تمام چیزوں کو کنٹرول کیا۔ اور وہ چارٹ اور نظام الاوقات تشکیل دے کر ، وہ جانتے تھے کہ معاملات کب ہونے والے ہیں۔ وہ جانتے تھے کہ انہیں کب کھانا مل سکتا ہے ، اور یہ کیا ہے ، اور وہ جانتے ہیں کہ اسے کیسے تیار کرنا ہے۔ اس نے میرے سوالوں کے بوجھ کو اتنا کم کردیا کہ اس نے میرے تناؤ کی سطح کو کم کردیا ، اور انھوں نے خود کو زیادہ خود مختار اور اپنے دن کے کنٹرول میں محسوس کیا ، جس کی وجہ سے انھوں نے بھی دباؤ کم محسوس کیا۔ تو مجھے پیار ہے کہ آپ نے اس کی پرورش کی۔ میں اس بات کو یقینی بنائے گا کہ آپ نے جو پی ڈی ایف کا ذکر کیا ہے اس کا لنک ویلنس ماما ڈاٹ ایف ایم کے شو نوٹوں میں ہے تاکہ آپ لوگ اسے ڈاؤن لوڈ کرسکیں۔ اور مجھے لگتا ہے کہ یہاں ایک اور اہم چیز کو چھونا ہے ، ہم نے اس کے بارے میں اپنی گذشتہ اقساط میں بات کی ہے ، اور میں اس بات کو یقینی بناتا ہوں کہ ان لوگوں کے ساتھ بھی آپس میں جوڑ دیا گیا ہے ، اگر آپ لوگوں نے ان کو نہیں سنا ہے تو ، وہ یقینا سننے کے قابل ہیں ، لیکن ہم نے واسٹیبلر نظام کے بارے میں بات کی۔ اور مجھے واقعتا need آپ کو ایک دن میرے گھر آنے کی ضرورت ہے تاکہ یہ معلوم ہو سکے کہ میں نے ایک جمناسٹک سے واسٹیبلر سسٹم کے لئے بہت ساری چیزیں شامل کیں ہیں جو ہمارے کمرے کے راستے سے لے کر ہر کمرے میں چھت سے لٹکتے ہوئے یوگا کے جھولوں پر مشتمل ہے۔ لیکن جو بھی واسٹیبلر سسٹم ہے اس سے واقف نہیں ہے ، اور کیوں کہ یہ اتنا اہم ہے ، کیا آپ اس طرح ہمیں ایک پرائمر دے سکتے ہیں اور اس کے ذریعے ہم سے بات کرسکتے ہیں کہ اس سے ہمیں بہتر والدین کیسے بن سکتے ہیں؟

کیرول: بالکل ، کیٹی۔ لہذا جب ہم انسان بڑھ رہے ہیں تو ویسٹرویولر سسٹم یوٹرو میں ترقی پانے والے پہلے حواس میں سے ایک ہے۔ اور یہ بنیادی طور پر بہت ہی بنیادی شکل پر ہے ، ہماری یہ جاننے کی صلاحیت کہ ہم خلا میں کہاں ہیں ، یہ اندرونی صلاحیت ہے۔ لیمین کی شرائط لازمی طور پر ، آپ لفظ کو اپنے توازن کے احساس کے طور پر استعمال کرسکتے ہیں ، لیکن یہ آپ کے اندرونی کان سے متصل توازن کا احساس ہے۔ اور یہ جاننا کہ آپ خلا میں کہاں ہیں لہذا حسی نظام کا ایک منظم بنیادی کام جس کو برقرار رکھنے کے لئے ہمیں انسانی دماغ اور اعصابی نظام کے دوسرے سسٹم تک رسائی حاصل کرنے کی ضرورت ہے ، جس کے بارے میں آپ سوچتے ہوں گے ، “گوش ، یہ واقعی اہم لگتا ہے اور یہ ہے ، لیکن بہت سارے لوگ اس کے بارے میں نہیں جانتے ہیں ، جانتے ہیں کہ یہ کیا ہے یا اس تک کیسے رسائی حاصل کی جائے اور اس سے فوائد حاصل کیے۔ ” لہذا ، جب ہم اس کے بارے میں بات کرتے ہیں کہ ویسٹیبلر ایکٹیویشن مجھے بہتر ماں بننے میں کس طرح مدد کرسکتا ہے؟ ہم اپنی ماؤں کے ساتھ رجحانات تلاش کر رہے ہیں کہ یہ ہے کہ ان کا جسمانی نظام ، ان کا توازن کا احساس بہت کمزور یا حساس سمجھا جاتا ہے۔ اب ہمارے پاس مختلف فلسفے ہیں کہ ایسا کیوں ہے۔ بہت سے ماؤں کو بریٹنگ کے عمل سے گزرنا پڑتا ہے ، واقعی میں ان ٹکڑوں کے بعد دماغی جسمانی رابطے کی ضرورت ہوتی ہے اور اس سارے عمل کو محض ایک سختی میں لایا جاتا ہے ، اور اس کا ایک حصہ ہونے کی وجہ سے ویسٹیبلر سسٹم بھی ہوتا ہے۔ اور چونکہ ہم دودھ پلا رہے ہیں اور ابتدا میں ہم وہاں تھوڑی بہت صحت یاب ہو رہے ہیں ، شاید ہم تھوڑا سا بی بی سی ہوسکتے ہیں۔ اور پھر اگر ہم اٹھنے اور صحیح مقدار میں نقل و حرکت نہیں کر رہے ہیں ، اور اپنے سسٹم کو صحیح مقدار میں ان پٹ دے رہے ہیں تو ، حقیقت میں وہ نظام کمزور ہوجاتا ہے ، اور پھر ہم اور بھی بیہودہ ہونا چاہتے ہیں۔ اور پھر جب ہم متحرک حرکت کرنے یا زیادہ حرکت کرنے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں تو ، یہ بہت عمدہ انداز میں تھوڑا سا مضحکہ خیز ہوسکتا ہے۔ اور پھر ہم عام طور پر کرنے سے کہیں کم باہر جانے جیسے کاموں سے گریز کرتے ہیں کیوں کہ ہمارا جسمانی نظام کمزور ہوچکا ہے۔

لیکن جیسا کہ ، کیٹی ، ہر بار جب میں آپ کے ساتھ چیٹ کرتا ہوں تو یہ بہت خوشی ہوتی ہے کہ آپ مجھ سے اپنے گھر میں موجود ان خوبصورت متحرک ٹولز کے بارے میں بات کرتے ہیں یا آپ مجھ سے اس قطب کے بارے میں باتیں کر رہے تھے کہ آپ اور آپ کے اہل خانہ۔ آپ کے شوق کے ایک حصے کے طور پر حصہ لے رہے ہیں۔ مجھے وہ پسند ایا. مجھے پسند ہے کہ آپ کے سنہرے بالوں والی بالوں اور آپ کی مسکراہٹ کو آپ فضا میں اڑتے ہوئے دیکھ سکتے ہیں۔ مجھے نہ صرف اس سرگرمی کے تفریح ​​اور آپ اپنے کنبے کے ساتھ جو کچھ کر رہے ہیں اس کی وجہ سے ہی محبت ہے ، لیکن میں جانتا ہوں کہ غوطہ خوروں میں خود کو بھاگ جانا اور اس اصول سے یہ سب آپ کو ایک بہتر کیٹی بنا رہا ہے اور ایک بہتر ماں کیونکہ اس حرکت سے مرکزی اعصابی نظام کی بنیادی ضرورت پوری ہو رہی ہے جس کی ضرورت اس تمام تقریب کے لئے ضروری ہے جو ہم صرف کرنے کے قابل ہیں۔ ان دنوں کمزور واسٹیبلر سسٹم ایک رجحان ہے ، نہ صرف ہماری ماں کے ساتھ بلکہ اب اپنے دوستوں کے ساتھ بھی۔ ٹھیک ہے؟ ہماری تحریک پر ایسی حدود ہیں۔ ہم نے اس کے بارے میں 2020 سے پہلے ہی بات کی تھی ، صرف یہ کہ ہماری برادریوں میں چلنے والا عمل کیسا تھا ، آپ کو معلوم ہے ، زیادہ اسکینٹیم اور باہر سے کم شرکت ، اور اس سے ترقی پر منفی اثرات کیسے پڑتے ہیں۔ ٹھیک ہے آپ نے اور اب اس نئی پرت میں جہاں آپ کے نقل و حرکت کو محدود کرنے والے مینڈیٹ ہیں اور آپ کہاں جاسکتے ہیں؟ اس سے ہمارے اعصابی نظام میں اور بھی اضافہ ہو رہا ہے اور ہمارے جسم کو ایک مستقل ، مستقل معمول اور نمونہ میں رکھنے کی ہماری صلاحیت میں کمی آرہی ہے جو ہمیں ہلکا پھلکا اور خوبصورت بناتا ہے۔ لہذا اس بصری شیڈول میں بھی کہ آپ اتنے پرجوش ہوجاتے ہیں ، کہ میں اس سے بہت پرجوش ہوں ، آپ واقعی میں اس وقت ہوسکتے ہیں… ایک بار جب آپ بصری نظام الاوقات کو گلے لگاتے ہیں ، تو آپ وہاں پر وقت کے بلاکس ڈال سکتے ہیں جو واقعی آپ کو مختلف علاقوں کو مضبوط بنانے میں مدد فراہم کرسکتا ہے کہ آپ کو نہ صرف اپنی اشیا جیسی چیزوں کو وہاں رکھنے کی ضرورت ہے ، بلکہ آپ کو بھاری کام کی سرگرمی یا جسمانی توازن کام جیسے چیزوں کو بھی شامل کیا جاسکتا ہے ، تاکہ اس سے آپ کے گھر والے ، ماں کی حیثیت سے ، آپ کے بچے کی مدد کرسکیں۔ کسی آن لائن پلیٹ فارم پر ایک نیا سیکھنے والے کے طور پر یا صرف اینٹوں اور مارٹر میں جانا ، یہ زیادہ دباؤ ہے۔

آپ کچھ سرگرمیوں کو تشکیل دے سکتے ہیں جو انھیں بلند کرسکتی ہیں تاکہ وہ اس دائیں-سطح پر ہوں ، تاکہ وہ سیکھ سکیں ، یا وہ آرام کر سکیں ، یا گھر میں اپنے بہن بھائیوں کے ساتھ ہلکے سے کھیل سکیں ، یا پھر وہ الگ ہوسکیں ، “ارے ، اب وقت آگیا ہے کہ میں سخت ورزش کروں ،” تاکہ وہ اس کو ترجیح دے سکیں ، اور یہ محسوس کریں کہ ان سے کیا بہتر ہوتا ہے ، تاکہ وہ خود ان چیزوں کا انتخاب کرسکیں۔ اور ایک بار پھر ، آپ اور آپ کے بچے اپنے لئے یہ نیا معمول بنا رہے ہیں۔ آپ اسے بصری نظام الاوقات کے ساتھ بناتے ہیں۔ آپ سسٹم ، گھر کو تسلی دیتے ہیں۔ اور پھر آپ دماغ کو ان چیزوں میں سے زیادہ کام کرنے کی تربیت دے سکتے ہیں جو آپ کے لئے کمزور ہوسکتی ہیں یا جو آپ بنانے کی کوشش کر رہے ہیں۔ لہذا ، واسٹیبلر ، اتنا اہم ، یہ سیکھنے کے اہرام کی بنیاد ہے ، جس کا ہم ہر وقت حوالہ دیتے ہیں۔ میں یہ یقینی بناتا ہوں کہ آپ کا بھی وہ لنک ہے۔ سیکھنے کا اہرامڈ واقعی میں وہ الفاظ ڈالتا ہے جو میں اب استعمال کررہا ہوں ایک اچھی بصری شبیہہ میں تاکہ آپ کو یہ سمجھنے میں مدد ملے کہ ویسٹبلولر نظام مرکزی اعصابی نظام کی بنیاد ہے۔ باقی تمام مہارتیں اس پر منحصر ہیں۔ اور ان دنوں حدود کے ساتھ ، یہ صرف کمزور ہوتا جارہا ہے ، لیکن ہمارے پاس عمدہ منصوبے اور سرگرمیاں ہیں۔ ہم آپ کو یہ سکھاتے ہیں کہ کیسے کسی فرد کی حالت کو دیکھیں ، ان کے طرز عمل کو دیکھیں اور پھر کسی ایسی چیز کا انتخاب کریں جس سے اس کا مقابلہ ہوسکے یا کسی چیز کو بہتر حالت میں بلند کرنے کے لئے اس کی حوصلہ افزائی ہوسکے۔ یہ صرف اتنا ہی عمدہ عمل ہے جو ہم اب فراہم کرسکتے ہیں۔ اور ایک بار پھر ، جب سے آپ نے اپنے گھر والوں کے بارے میں بتایا کہ قطب کے مار مار کر ہوا کے ذریعے اڑان بھر رہے ہیں ، یہ میرے لئے صرف اتنا خوبصورت ، تصویری منظر کشی ہے۔ مجھے بس یہ پسند ہے۔ اور مجھے آپ کے تمام اوزار پسند ہیں جو اس واسٹیبلر پر کام کررہے ہیں۔ اور یہ کرتا ہے ، یہ آپ کو بلند رکھے گا۔ اس سے آپ کو آگے بڑھتا رہتا ہے ، اور ساتھ چلتا رہتا ہے ، اور اگلے مقصد یا اس اگلے ٹکڑے پر کام ہوتا رہتا ہے۔ یہ سب بہت اہم ہے ، خاص طور پر ان دنوں۔

کیٹی: مجھے یہ پسند ہے۔ اور مجھے پیار ہے کہ آپ اس کے بارے میں بھی ماں کے بارے میں بات کرتے ہیں ، کیوں کہ میں نے پہلے بھی اس کے بارے میں بات کی ہے ، لیکن میں سمجھتا ہوں کہ ماں کی حیثیت سے ، ہماری ذہنی کیفیت ہمارے کنبے کے ل the اس قدر ترجیح دیتی ہے۔ اور اس طرح جب ہم زیادہ پر سکون مل سکیں گے ، تو ہمارے بچے اس سے فائدہ اٹھا سکتے ہیں۔ اور یہ ایک لہر دار اثر ہے ، یہاں تک کہ ہمارے خاندان میں صرف ایک بہت ہی لا شعور تبدیلی۔ اور مجھے لگتا ہے کہ جب ماں کی بات آتی ہے تو یہ واسٹیبلر ٹکڑا اکثر چھوٹ جاتا ہے۔ اور میں نے اسے اپنے آپ میں محسوس کیا۔ بچے پیدا ہونے کے بعد ، میں پلٹیں اور چیزیں کرتا تھا ، کوئی حرج نہیں۔ اور پھر بچوں کے پیدا ہونے کے بعد ، مجھے کسی بھی شکل میں ، کسی طرح سے بھی الٹا جانا کوئی راحت اور محفوظ محسوس نہیں ہوا۔ مجھے اس سے باز آنا پڑا۔ اور یہ بہت مزے کی بات ہے کہ قطب والٹنگ کے ساتھ یا اپنے بچوں کے ساتھ جمناسٹک کے ساتھ سیکھنا ، دوبارہ کھیلنا سیکھیں ، اور آپ کی طرح ، میرے جسم میں خود کو محفوظ محسوس کرنے کے لئے ، الٹا جانے کے لئے کافی حد تک محفوظ ہے ، اور ان سب چیزوں سے۔ اور میں ایک ماں کی حیثیت سے بھی جانتا ہوں ، اور مجھے یقین ہے کہ آپ نے اسے شاید اپنے بچوں کے ساتھ اور آپ کے ساتھ کام کرنے والے بچوں کے ساتھ بھی دیکھا ہوگا ، مثال کے طور پر ، اس حصے کی رہنمائی کرنا بہت ضروری ہے۔ جیسے ، میں اپنے بچوں کو کچھ کرنے کے لئے کہہ سکتا ہوں یا میں انہیں ورزش کرنا ، منتقل کرنا یا الٹا کھیلنا ضروری سمجھا سکتا ہوں۔ اور یہ بہت اچھا ہے۔ لیکن جب وہ مجھے یہ کرتے ہوئے دیکھتے ہیں تو ، وہ سبھی ساتھ شامل ہوجاتے ہیں ، یا جب میں ایک اور پوڈ کاسٹ مہمان ، ہنٹر فٹنس ، اس کی کلاس کرتا ہوں ، جو سب کچھ نقل و حرکت اور مشترکہ تحفظ کے بارے میں ہوتا ہے ، جو واقعی اہم ہوتا ہے جب آپ قطب کو مارتے رہتے ہیں ، تو یہ کچھ ہے مجھے معلوم تھا کہ میرے بچوں کو کرنا چاہئے۔ اور میں انہیں ایسا کرنے کی ترغیب دوں گا۔ لیکن اگر میں بیٹھ کر یہ کام کرتا ہوں تو ، وہ بیٹھ کر آتے ہیں اور میرے ساتھ کرتے ہیں۔ اور اسی طرح ، ماں کی طرح ، یہ اس طرح ہے جب ہم اس کو ترجیح دے سکیں ، نہ صرف ہم خود کو بہتر محسوس کریں گے اور بہتر بھی محسوس کریں گے ، بلکہ ہمارے بچے بھی اتنا زیادہ امکان رکھتے ہیں کہ وہ بھی ایسا کرنا چاہیں۔ اور میں جانتا ہوں کہ آپ کے پاس اس کے لئے بہت ساری عملی حکمت عملی ہے۔ ہمیں ان کچھ طریقوں سے چلو جن سے ہم اپنے بچوں کی مدد کرسکتے ہیں ، جیسے آپ نے پہلے ہی ایک جوڑے کا تذکرہ کیا ہے ، لیکن گھر میں روزمرہ کی ان سرگرمیوں سے ہمارا دماغ دوبارہ چلائیں۔

کیرول: بالکل۔ لہذا ، جیسا کہ میں پہلے بھی ذکر کر رہا تھا ، وہاں مختلف چیزیں ہیں جن میں آپ حصہ لے سکتے ہیں جس سے اعصابی نظام کی موجودگی کی کچھ خاصی سہولت ہوسکتی ہے ، لیکن یہ بھی کہ آپ کسی خاص مقصد کے ساتھ ، انتہائی جان بوجھ کر ان سرگرمیوں کو مرتب کرکے دماغ کو دوبارہ متحرک کرسکتے ہیں۔ لہذا ، مثال کے طور پر ، جب آپ کی طرح ، جواب دینے والا ایک بچہ چھت پر بہت زیادہ چڑھنے والا ، ضرورت سے زیادہ بات کرنے والا ، زیادہ ردِ عمل کا شکار ، بے چین ، متشدد ، ہم ہمیشہ سرگرمیوں میں شامل کرنا پسند کرتا ہے ، جیسے بھاری کام اور اس کے ساتھ اٹھانا۔ وزنی گیندیں ، مشترکہ کمپریشن ہیں۔ لہذا ، بھاپ رولر کے ساتھ کسی بھی گہری دباؤ کی سرگرمیاں ، جوڑوں کو مشترکہ دباؤ ، بہت سارے تیز رفتار تھراپی۔ آپ اس طرح ہماری سرگرمی کچھ منٹ کے ل do کریں ، پھر آپ یہ محسوس کرسکتے ہیں کہ یہ کس طرح آرام کرسکتا ہے ، ترتیب دے سکتا ہے ، اور ایسے کیمیکلوں کو چھوڑ سکتا ہے جو آپ کو اعصابی طور پر پرسکون محسوس کرنے میں مدد کرسکتے ہیں۔ لیکن پھر ، ان دوستوں کے بارے میں کیا خیال ہے جو ذرا کم جوابدہ ہیں ، ٹھیک ہے؟ سوال کے جواب میں ان میں تاخیر ہے۔ وہ زیادہ بی بی ہیں۔ وہ ، آپ جانتے ہو ، ان میں مشغول ہونا یا انخلا کرنا مشکل ہوسکتا ہے۔ یہاں تک کہ وہ سست دکھائی دے سکتے ہیں یا طرز عمل سے متعلق دشواریوں کا بھی سامنا کرسکتے ہیں۔ ان دوستوں کے لئے ، یہاں کی کلید ، جیسا کہ ہماری تمام سرگرمیوں اور حکمت عملیوں کے ساتھ ہے ، ان طرز عمل کو دماغ کی حالت کی عکاسی کے طور پر دیکھنا ہے اور پھر ایسی سرگرمیوں کا انتخاب کرنا ہے جس کی مدد سے آپ بہتر حالت میں جاسکیں گے جس کی آپ کوشش کر رہے ہیں۔ ان کم جواب دہ دوستوں کے ل، ، آپ ان کے بصری نظام الاوقات میں سرگرمیوں میں رکاوٹ ڈال سکتے ہیں ، ٹرامپولائن پر کود سکتے ہیں ، یا ان کم جواب دہ دوستوں سے پہلے کچھ چھلانگ لگا کر اور بھاگتے ہوئے کچھ دیگر سرگرمیاں کرنے کو کہتے ہیں ، جیکنگ جیک ، contralateral چھلانگ ، تیراکی. ان تمام قسم کی چیزوں کو ، اگر آپ جان بوجھ کر ان پر استقامت لگاتے ہیں تو ، واقعی دماغ کو اس بہتر حالت کو پہچاننے میں مدد مل سکتی ہے۔ پھر اگر آپ یہ کرتے ہیں اور جان بوجھ کر ہر دن اس کا شیڈول کرتے ہیں ، اور پھر یہ دماغ کے لئے ایک معمول کا معمول بن جاتا ہے تو ، دماغ صرف کام کرنے کا طریقہ جانتا ہے۔

ہم نے اسے ریاست میں رہنے کی تربیت دی ہے۔ اور اس ڈھانچے اور اعصابی ڈھانچے کا ہونا جو آپ کے دماغ کے ان تمام اعلی علمی مراکز اور آپ کی زندگی کے اعلی معیار تک پہنچنے کی اجازت دینے کے لئے اتنا ضروری ہے کہ آپ تک پہنچنے کی کوشش کر رہے ہو ، لیکن ایسا محسوس نہیں ہوتا ہے آپ ابھی وہاں پہنچ سکتے ہیں۔ ہمارے پروگرام میں ، ہمارے پاس بہت آسان ٹولز بھی موجود ہیں جو ہم دماغ کو دوبارہ کام کرنے کے ل use استعمال کرتے ہیں ، جیسے اب ایکسلرینٹ ہیں۔ لہذا ، آپ ان روزمرہ کی سرگرمیوں کو لے سکتے ہیں ، اور آپ کوئی ایسی چیز شامل کرسکتے ہیں جس میں آواز کی تعدد اور ہڈیوں کی ترسیل استعمال ہو۔ ہم دراصل دماغ میں نیوران رابطوں کی تشکیل کرسکتے ہیں ، صرف دماغ کو کچھ ایسی تعدد سے بے نقاب کرکے جو دماغ اور افعال کے مخصوص حصوں کو نشانہ بناتے ہیں۔ فرد اس میں حصہ لیتا ہے اور اسی طرح طرح سے زیادہ سے زیادہ سرگرمیاں کرنا مفید اور دماغ کو منظم کرنے کی طرح ہوتا ہے ، جب آپ ایک تیز رفتار آلے میں ڈھل جاتے ہیں ، جیسے ہمارے پاس ، آپ واقعی بدل سکتے ہیں۔ آپ دماغ کو دوبارہ کام کرسکتے ہیں۔ آپ IQ پوائنٹس کو تبدیل کرسکتے ہیں۔ ہمارے پاس بچوں کو کئی سال کی تعلیمی مہارتیں مل جاتی ہیں ، جیسے زبان ، فنون اور ریاضی کی مہارتیں جو معیاری تشخیص پر ماپی جاتی ہیں ، ان سننے کے کچھ پروگراموں کے ساتھ کئی مہینوں کے ٹائم فریم میں ایک سال کی اعصابی مہارت حاصل کرتی ہے۔ یہ حیرت انگیز ہے کہ اب ہم اس عمل کو تیز کرنے اور اپنے دوستوں کو اعصابی مہارت اور لچک پیدا کرنے کے لئے کیا کرسکتے ہیں جو ان کے پاس نہیں ہے۔ اور اس میں ماں باپ کو بھی شامل ہے کیونکہ لازمی طور پر ، ہم سب مل کر گزر رہے ہیں اور ہم سب کچھ اعصابی تنظیم کا استعمال کرسکتے ہیں۔ اور اس طرح ، یہ جاننا واقعی اتنا فائدہ مند ہے کہ دماغ کی نیوروپلاسٹکٹی کے ساتھ ، جو عمر نہیں جانتا ہے اور نہ ہی کوئی تشخیص ، آپ دماغ کو کچھ مخصوص سرگرمیوں اور نمونوں سے بازیافت کرسکتے ہیں ، اور ہم صرف اپنے دوستوں کو ان لوگوں کے ساتھ مربوط ہونے میں مدد کرنا پسند کرتے ہیں۔

کیٹی: ہاں ، مجھے یہ پسند ہے۔ And I think the important thing here too, like I mentioned in the beginning, so often these are things that are maybe facilitated through the school system or through special programs related to the school system. And the beauty of it is, these are things that even if that whole paradigm has changed, that parents now through programs like yours have access to at home. It can be so paradigm-shifting for the stress level of the whole family.

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Can you talk a little bit more about how we can assess that neurological function at home? Because like I said, I think this is something that for a long time, parents just always assumed was the realm of specialist or that they needed a lot of outside help to do. And I love that your whole focus recently has been making these things available to parents in the home wherever they are.

Carol: Absolutely. And so, originally, we created our home program to reach that mom who was stuck in her home due to, you know, the severe state of their child, and that the neurological needs, it was just too distressing, and they couldn’t or they could barely leave the home. They could get out for therapies, but it was very difficult to do. It’s very time consuming, a lot of heavy lifting. And even then sometimes when they were there, they just weren’t quite sure they were getting the changes they were looking for. So we made this whole program just for that mom so we can ship her or the protocols, the best ones to work for her and her child. We will connect her with occupational therapist that is board-certified all across the country. We connect her with a specialist who will walk her through the process, help her gain access to making these changes in her home. We make them accessible because… And with that, they can use it every day. And when you can give this type of input every day, you surely will change that trajectory so much more quickly and allow for those gains to be reached. So, now, what we’ve done is there’s so many friends who can’t leave their homes, right? The same kind of thing. So it has grown even more. And we have a growing group of friends and therapists, and we are connecting them with neurological calm, just by connecting them with this thought process, with our Calm Method, giving them the skills and the strength to change that trajectory with what they can in their own hands in their home. And then also, you can do a couple of little neurological tests, just a little wink and to see how severe are these issues? And should I reach out and speak to a specialist? Maybe I need more of those accelerating tools.

And that’s absolutely something that you can test yourself. So a super quick one that we do, and it’s very easy. It’s especially for the vestibular system, and since that’s the primary basic block of the central nervous system, of course, we assess it. Very easy though. It’s from a standardized assessment, but since I’m not gonna put everybody through that, you have a cliff note of it is, as you stand, you have an individual stand on one foot with their eyes open and count to 10. You can learn a whole lot from an individual asking them to stand on one foot with their eyes open and count to 10. Most everybody can count to 10. Great. But what if you can’t? What if they wiggle and fall over? Figure out the number that they wiggled and fell over on. If it was at a three, then they could stand for three seconds with their eyes open. If it was 10, that’s great. Now move on to the next one. Stand with on one foot with your eyes closed and count how many seconds you can do that. If you can stand on one foot with your eyes open for 10 seconds, and then with your eyes closed for 10 seconds, you have an intact vestibular system. I don’t expect you to have vestibular weaknesses or be carsick or prone to sedentary. You’ve got the basic skill and function. However, what if you’re able to stand on one foot with your eyes open for 10 seconds, but when we asked you to close them, did you fall over at 3? If so, that let’s you know that you have a weakened vestibular system. And absolutely, there’s protocols that we can begin and exercises that we can walk you through that begin to strengthen that immediately, very important, that vestibular to function, very basic building block.

We also have what’s super helpful, is we have a Brain Harmony quiz. And we’ll give you the link to that as well, Katie, because if you would like and that, you know… I feel like, you know, I’m making changes with the recommendations and I understand that I’m getting closer, but I feel like there’s just something that’s just a little more off than others within myself or within the children. So this quick neurological screen, it’s a questionnaire, really can put some of these things into perspective for you, as well as you can call us and speak to a specialist, and we’ll give you a free consult. We’ll talk through some of these concerns that you have and help you put them into perspective on, “This is how severe that is. And here are different options for you.” And then, again, like I mentioned, I want all your listeners to have access and be able to print out our steps to the Calm Method because they’re concrete ways in there for you to just initially just begin to make those changes in your home right away, which is just so needed right now.

Katie: Absolutely. Okay. And a couple of things I wanna follow up on that you mentioned. Well, first of all, just now, you said you wouldn’t expect someone to be carsick or motion sick if they had a well-developed vestibular system. For parents or even for myself, I’ve noticed at times, it’s gotten a lot better, but I used to get really motion sick. Is this something we can actually help address by addressing the vestibular system?

Carol: Yes, it’s one of my favorite things to do. Because I was a car sick friend. I was a sensory friend and then I still am. And one of those though I used to be carsick as well. And so I couldn’t read in the car. And it was… I always had to look out of the window. I had to have air condition on my face or the window rolled down. I had to have… Everybody in the car was an active participant in keeping me from being carsick. But then as life goes on, you mature a little bit, you compensate for that. Different periods of life may get better or weaker. But once I started to work in pediatrics many years ago, we’re at 23 years now, and I started doing all of this work specifically targeting the different aspects of the central nervous system and specifically the vestibular system, when you organize that, we found that our friends, I just by doing the work, and participating, and having others go through these activities, and me helping to facilitate the dynamic movement of the head with these activities, my vestibular system got strengthened. And then when I layered in the tools that I’m talking about, like the Focus Unit, or the Safe and Sound Protocol, or our Brain Harmony Vestibular Protocol, I started to participate that. Now, I can read in the car. I can type on my computer. I can actually go between two different screens at the same time while driving in the car. It’s remarkable. And then what’s so significant is we have this beautiful testimony of this mom, Cassie, and her family of six. And they came to us, and different family members had different areas that they needed to work on. But vestibular is, of course, where we went to first. And dad needed it more than any other family member, which was it was a little surprising, but absolutely we worked with him to build it.

But his son, who is actually older, like 12, he would get so carsick on the way to school, that it took him several hours to recover at school before he could, you know, feel himself and engage in the level that he’s used to. Well, that’s just too much time, you know, in recovery for this poor friend, knowing that all you have to do is organize the vestibular system and address the semicircular canals inside the inner ear. It’s the science. It may sound complicated with the protocols to organize it are not. And we’ve made it super simple and easy to do. So, something like vestibular, like car sickness, that’s an easy thing to kind of give yourself a neurological snapshot. If you’re car sick, you should just assume that your vestibular system is in a weakened state, and you could benefit from participating in this or even say like you have a little friend and you’re the mom, you’re modeling, you’re leading the way, “Let’s go to the playground.” You’re running, jumping, diving. You run up the slide and you’re trying to squish your body in because you’re dying to get down the slide, but you notice your child or a friend at the park is standing at the bottom of the slide, and there’s no way they are going up that slide. The whole idea of having their feet leave the floor is very, very noxious to their system, very disorienting, and can send them into a fight or flight. So, of course, they’re not going to play with a balance or sense of direction and go through a slide because their system is so weak. Those are little bitty ways for you to just measure in your own right. I’m giving you that ability to look with little neurological cues and snapshots of how intact their nervous system is, and specifically the vestibular.

Katie: So cool. Okay, and you also mentioned contralateral movements. And I’m curious to hear, just on my own curiosity, how this fits in as well because I just started an experiment with the local track athletes who are training for the Olympics in pole vaulting. I’m gonna do their entire year-long training circuit with them, mainly to break kind of my inner filter that I’m not an athlete because if I can complete that, I’m actually…I’ve done an athletic protocol for a whole training season. But one thing we’re doing now in the early phase, they call it contralateral training, where you’re moving, like, if it would be your left leg and right arm in different movements, which increases your aerobic capacity in the way we’re doing it. But I’ve noticed that seems to also really help my balance. So, explain what contralateral is and how that’s a good tool.

Carol: Absolutely. So, we talk about contralateral jumps and interhemispheric connections between both sides of the brain. All of those are areas that is OTs and helping families function at their highest level possible, are all absolutely… It’s ways to assess even. If those bilateral coordination tasks, like jumping jacks or opposing sides of the body, those different things you were telling me, if those is difficult for you, it really means you just need to do them more. And then once you build those interhemispheric connections, it does strengthen your entire neurological framework that allows you to have better access between both sides of the brain and both sides of the body. Doing any of our accelerated tools, for example, right, anything with the sound frequencies and the bone conduction, any of those accelerating tools, we add specific movement patterns, whether it’s reflex integration, whether it’s bilateral coordination tasks, whether it’s specific balance in vestibular, whether it’s specific ocular motor, movements of the eyes, right, that’s directly anatomically connected to the vestibular apparatus, as well as to our auditory processing. So by doing all of these multi-sensory activities with specific movements for the brain, you can absolutely accelerate your neurological integrity, your strength, and your resiliency, that will then and only then allow you to reach out of your comfort zone and build skills out of that state that you were stuck in or you felt you were stuck in.

And I really like your example about feeling like you weren’t an athletic person. Dear goodness, everybody should just participate, you know, in our program, get yourselves into exactly even, like, with the pole vaulting that you’re doing because to me, not being able to participate in any of those physical things that you want to in the way that you want your body to respond or as intended, it just means that it’s not as organized as it can be. And we can make it organized. We have so many things that are easily accessed, and really just the CliffsNotes, and really bridge that gap really quickly to function bilateral coordination, interhemispheric connection, and quite honestly, you know, that’s that higher cognitive centers of the brain, where mood, creativity, and social engagement can be found. So, I just love that.

Katie: It’s so cool. I love that there are these simple things, and I think they do make a big difference. I’ve seen it in my own life. And you talk about it a little bit but, like, just walk us through kind of as we get close to wrapping up, how things like you mentioned, words like executive function, and communication and happiness, how those are direct reflection of states of our brain and how we can use that to our advantage to nurture those states in our home?

Carol: Absolutely. And so all of these steps that we’ve been discussing today in the Calm Method, first providing comfort, then to activate certain parts of your brain to learn and rewire the brain so that you can actually master the higher cognitive center of the brain, the areas, and you can actually access things like executive function and your ability to communicate more about how you’re feeling and connect with others. And from that, just easier access to happiness. And it comes from… All of these things come from neurological organization. And by putting down the steps to get there in four easy ways, then you begin at that first step and just start grooming yourself, grooming your home, grooming the process, fitting in the pieces that makes sense for you, fitting in the activities that change, and help your family, and yourself feel and function better. When you can feed the system what it needs, activate what it needs, then it’s learning how to function. You can only then access this higher cognitive state of the brain. That’s why happiness can feel so far away when we are stressed, and overwhelmed, and overloaded. It’s like physically, you can’t get there. Just like when friends would come to their OT sessions, and then we would give them this neurological organization, and the safety, and the pulse available regulation, and then they went to their speech sessions. The speech pathologist just love this. And they run out of the room and say, “Oh, my goodness, what did you just do with this child? I’ve got more speech and language development than I ever have. What did you do?”

Well, we walked him through the calm process. We did these basic steps that can allow them to access the parts of the brain that require the foundation of the central nervous system to be built and intact. And you can do it yourself just by following these steps. So, it’s so important to relieve the suffering for so many families, as we try to regain regularity, and some calm, and some predictability. And you can do it with these steps and really change how you’re feeling, how your family is feeling. And then you move into this next chapter with more neurological organization that you had when it started.

Katie: I love it. So, two-part question to wrap up. Are there a couple of just simple movements or activities that you would recommend across the board for families to do? Obviously, like you said there’s specifics, depending on the particular thing a person’s working on. But are there any kind of good movements or activities that as moms, we can just do with our kids and that also benefit us? And then the second part of that question being, for someone who does have a more specific thing they want to address, where’s a great starting point with you? And I’ll make sure, of course, all those links are in the show notes, at wellnessmama.fm so people can find you and get started.

Carol: Absolutely. So, the first thing I always do is we wanna try and get more movement into our bodies and we want to get more movement where it feels good. So, essentially, you know, making sure that your head is moving in a bunch of different planes, I can get specific for you. But essentially, in general, you’ve got to be moving up and down, and side-to-side, and backwards and forwards. So whatever activities can help you do that, the better. So, for example, when it’s super rainy, like we have a hurricane kind of coming this way, and there’s not a lot of things to do outside of the house, maybe our friends have been or/and ourselves have been more on the screens or doing things a little more sedentary, we pulled our trampoline alone in the backyard, and my son gets in there, and he does and, you know, we’re not jumping super crazy and super high. What we’re doing instead is we’re doing… He likes to do these forward roles forwards and backwards. We like to do sidewards rolls as well. We do jumping jacks, these scissor jumps, like right arm, left leg, then switch, left arm, right leg, all of these things to help keep our system engaged, and awakened, and functioning. And then, from there, you can layer in more specific things to meet whatever part of your system needs to be more awakened at that time.

Katie: Very cool. Okay, so you’ve mentioned a lot of your different programs. I’ve got links, I believe for all of those. They’ll all be at wellnessmama.fm. Where would you send people that first starting point? To the quiz? Or if they have something more acute, would you recommend them doing consult with you guys first thing to figure out what direction to go?

Carol: I love the consult because they’re just so useful. Our moms call up, and they’ll tell us about the state of where they are, and the state of their family members. Usually, it’s one family member that is having the most difficult, which is the catalyst for them reaching out to us. But you’ll get a developmental specialist on the phone with you. We pull out what your pain points are, figure out what your priorities are. And then we’ll lay out for you the specific protocols that we can give you and get started right away. We’re starting to change that trajectory. That is absolutely the easiest and fun way to connect with finding out more about what you can do to make this better for you and your family. But we also have a really quick Brain Harmony quiz. And it’s a series of questions. And I really liked the questions because it starts to hit all of the different areas of the central nervous system, vestibular, your sensory system, emotional regulation, how your nervous system is functioning day to day. And with that, you’ll get a nice summary of, these are some areas of deficits and these are ideas that you can start using right now to change that trajectory. And then here are some of our protocols and some accelerating tools to really help you along because there’s so much suffering, and families just don’t know how to much change, and how much relief an organization and exceeding expectations as far as academic achievement that you can get these days just from using the tools, the order in which we use them, and then some of these accelerating tools because that suffering is just something that is excessive if I know that there’s something that we can do to change it. And we have fantastic protocols to do so.

Katie: It’s so great. I hope that this conversation has inspired a lot of families to move more and with their heads more, and learn about and focus on vestibular development, and creating that safe place and the calm. I’ve definitely seen how those kind of changes can make such a big impact, especially with kids. And I think we can all use a little bit more calm right now. So, thanks again, as always, Carol for sharing your time and your resources. If you guys are listening, all the things she has mentioned will be in the show notes at wellnessmama.fm so you can find them. She has some great incredible free resources and that free consult to get you guys started and figure out where to go. And her information is helpful, I feel like across the board to families, whether you have an acute thing you’re trying to work through or not. So I’m definitely encouraging you guys to check it out. But Carol, thanks again for the time and being here again.

Carol: It’s my pleasure, Katie, and I’m looking forward to meeting you one day, hopefully flying through the air over a pole vault or something to that extent because that is a beautiful image of you that I’d like to stay in my mind.

Katie: Oh, I love it. You’ll have to come and join one day. And thanks as always to all of you for listening, for sharing your most valuable resource, your time, with both of us today. We’re so grateful that you did. And we hope that you are staying happy, calm, and sane in your homes. And I hope that you will join me again on the next episode of the “Wellness Mama Podcast.”

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